Come to the Table
'My daughter's table' was inspired by the concept that our table is a place to gather. It will shape the future, the connections we build, the people we have in our lives, the things we talk about and the depths we go to together.
Community to us is.....
- Sharing a good meal
- Highs and Lows
- Drinking a glass of wine or a “Clayton creation” (my husband is the ultimate drink master, and they aren’t for the weak)
- Meeting new friends and reconnecting with old ones
Community is the most important thing to me in life. To me community means relationships, friends, family, loving each other in sickness and in health. We come together despite difficulties to encourage each other, enjoy each other’s company and create community.
We have been in a season for a while where entertaining in our own home has felt difficult. We have been in a season of asking for help and accepting help. It has drawn us into even deeper community with those close to us, because let’s be real, asking for help is NOT EASY. I’m incredibly grateful that 'our people' are willing and able to be there for us when we need it, and I know when the tables are turned, we will be there for our loved ones too.
A few tips on creating community….
Reach out, take the first step, pick up the phone and make that awkward phone call to the person you just met who you said “let’s get together.” But you both know it’s unlikely to actually happen. Even with close friends and family, life can get busy and you can find yourself distant without even knowing how it happened.
Pick a date it’ll happen!! Suggest a couple options and get the date on the calendar.
If you’re not the best with conversation or someone is a conversation hog, play a little game of “highs and lows.” It’s become a family tradition for us and even my 3 year old loves it. Share one high from your week and one low from your week. You’ll find very quickly that people will share much more intimate details doing this than just casual conversation.
If you’re not comfortable entertaining in your own home, you don’t have to! Meet at a restaurant, coffee shop or park to create community.
You will find yourself more fulfilled and connected if you’re making sure you get community with people at least once a week. Of course every personality is different, but for me, I need community 4-5 times a week, especially as a stay-at-home-mom. Sometimes it is going to a friends place for a play-date and tea other times it’s scheduling in a dinner with friends at our house.
I truly do not believe we are meant to be isolated or going through life along. We were created to live in community. Make a plan for yourself today to create some community and love one a friend or family member you haven’t seen in a while.